When  we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to  us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice,  solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our  wounds with a warm and tender hand.  The friend who can be silent with  us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour  of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not  healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a  friend who cares.  ~Henri Nouwen